No one talks about just how hard it is to name a baby. I mean this kid comes out with a clean slate and the name you tag on them can either set them up for success or failure right off the bat. Okay, that’s a little melodramatic, but a name holds some serious weight. It is what teachers, friends, classmates, co-workers, bosses and more will call them for the rest of their lives. So when you do choose a name, you want to make sure you choose wisely.
Would you believe me when I tell you Tate’s name was picked out before we even knew he was a boy? When it came to naming our baby there was no debate. We had 2 solid first and middle names (one for boy and for girl) that were set in stone. Growing up our entire lives each having to correct teachers for mispronouncing our names, we knew we wanted something unique but easy on the eyes as well.
Being a nurse working in a children’s clinic there were constantly names being thrown around. You had the usuals: John, Ashley, Joseph, Brittany, etc. And you had the not so usuals as well. But every now and then you heard a name and it just kind of stuck out. That was how Tate was for me. Once I heard the name I knew it would be my child’s. It was both unique, easy to spell and straight to the point. Plus it kinda sounds presidential don’t you think?
Once we had our names chosen, they of course had to go through a few tests. Here’s my top 5 tips I used in picking my baby’s name:
- Meaning. What does this name mean? Soon after deciding on Tate’s name I ran it through the google search engine. I mean the last thing you want is to name your child something that means butthead. Tate, an english baby name meaning cheerful or joy. That checked number one right off my list.
- Initials. What will the initials read? This was a tip I read on The Baby Center that I had never thought of! Imagine naming your baby Ashley Susan Smith, A.S.S. Ashley if you’re out there, I’m sorry hun you’re probably a really sweet girl and not at all what your initials say you are. T. J. B. Another check in my book!
- Common. How many people have this name? With both me and Briean having such unique names, our child’s name was destined to come with some originality. I knew right away I wanted my child’s name to be something that when people heard it they had that two second pause because it wasn’t something they heard every day. After working in the pediatrics for 3.5 years and baby sitting many many years before that I had only heard one Tate. Check, check, check.
- Nicknames. How can I make this a nickname? Okay, okay, if you‘ve checked out my Insta lately then you know my all-time favorite thing to call Tate is Tater tot. I am a nickname person. I love to give nicknames and to have my own special thing to call a person. The second I realized “Tater-Tot” was an option for Tate, the deal was sealed!
- Love. Do I love this name, judgement and all? When picking Tate’s name I never thought of anyone else’s opinion. I didn’t care if people thought it was too short, weird or was more tied to a certain race. I LOVED the name. I knew that after we announced the name no matter what backlash people said, at the end of the day I would still want that name and that was all that mattered.
With everything else going on during pregnancy it’s easy to sweat the small stuff. But picking a baby name should be a joyful experience, so don’t let it stress you out! Have some fun with it. Play a guessing games with close friends, have a name release party or even keep it to yourself like a secret between you and your small family. Whatever you decide to do, make sure to use the tips above. The last thing you want is to have your baby looking like an Ashley Susan Smith.