- goal: healthy baby
- process: fast and easy if we’re lucky
- route: vaginal delivery
Typically “consider the idea of a c-section” means just that, “consider it” but don’t let it ponder in your mind for too long.
- Who do you want in the room?
- Do you want drugs?
- Dad do you want to cut the cord?
But the reality was none of those things stopped me from having a cesarean birth.
- Prepare for anything. Notice, I did not say PLAN for anything I said prepare. It’s easy to have the thought in your mind and dismiss it, but it’s another to actually put things in place for it. Research what you might need if you happen to have a c-section. My top picks would be a tummy band, low bed height/high bedside bassinet and some household activities ready to go since you can’t drive for 3-4 weeks post surgery.
- Write down the alternative birth plan as well. Again putting things IN place. When I got rushed to the surgery room my midwife had NO idea the things I’d want for a c- section because I hadn’t written it down for her. I would have added: slight delayed cord clamping (even with a c-section), skin to skin immediately with mom (not taken to the side so only dad can see while I’m still stuck on the table), and definitely would have added a clear tarp covering so I could see the baby coming out (hey what can I say, the nurse in me was very intrigued).
- Work through your emotions. This one is a prep action and not a full “do” action because it’s hard to fully prepare for something you’ve never had happen. However, my emotions toward a c-section was very present. I didn’t want to talk about it, hence me not reading those parts of the book. Had I spent some time working through and journaling my true fears and dislikes with c-sections it might have prepared me more for the during and after part of the delivery process.
As we all have heard before, the way your baby comes out has no determination on you as a mother.
So if c- section is not in your plans, great! Do everything you can to prepare your body for vaginal delivery, but don’t ignore reality. Preparing your mind for the “just in case” c- section is just as important as preparing your body.
Ask the right questions, buy the right things and prepare yourself for delivery!
You’re having a baby mama, no matter how he/she comes into this world remember:
You’re body is opening up to give life and that is the greatest act of sacrifice there is.